It is not really what I was searching for

Native install.
Redis installed on the network and accessed by nextcloud.
Separate database on host.

EDIT : formating

Relaying on one big entity is always a bad idea, self host powers

Didn’t downvote or upvote either cause your post doesn’t really ask or show anything (expect that you really like leeching, less seeding…)

Please edit it to better contribute to the community

Surely recent CEOs actions

Oh yeah sorry I thought that both ends configured custom self hosted servers. But yeah in the “normal” case the self hosted server is “only” contributing to the network

Why not “only”?

With firewall you could do it pretty properly

Don’t think so, but I will try to check it

I want to protect my home services, so when accessing my domain it goes trough the vps and you only knows its IP (a datacenter IP) but for my friends and family I don’t need this protection so they are accessing my home with a VPN connection and btw they are using the vps to make requests and so protect their privacy.

The simple solution (since my services are publicly available), would be to route all traffic coming from my friends trough my home and then through the vps. But I don’t like this idea since it would add a lot of latency and useless traffic since the client is already going trough my home…

So my question is how could I route directly to the client the local services and let go through the vps the rest of the traffic?

Hum maybe this is a good solution, gonna dig a bit into

Nah it’s not what I want to do.

The request from client for local services goes trough the first VPN and are resolved in my home and then comeback.

The request from client to outside services goes trought my home with the first VPN, are resolved here and then go to the internet trough the second VPN and then comeback to the client

This is not what I exactly want to do. Requests to my home services are protected by not going directly to my home and rather going trough VPS, but since I know my friends I can let them go directly to my home without at any time go trough the VPS (expect to make up the out request).

Edited the post with a diagramm

Right will try to make you a diagram, but I dont think tailscale would be a good solution…

But if I correctly understand how Tailscale works I would need to install tailscale on all machines I wish to give access to friends?

Yeah that’s what I was thinking thank you. But how can I restrict the access of my local network to my friends and family connecting to the VPN provided (is tailscale something to consider?)

Didn’t know if I explained it bad, but it’s not exactly what I want to do. All the request goes trough my home (since people are VPNed to it), if they are requesting outside stuff it goes trough the VPS using VPN connection. But they request inside services it should go directly to them.

Basically I want to know a way of routing everything trough VPS (basically a wire guard connection) but home services to avoid doing a useless journey to the internet

All the people that surely criticized Musk at the time, would surely not criticize cook this time, because Apple fans… They have it in their hands

Little subquestion how fast is your nextclous instance? Cause mine is pretty slow don’t really know why