I came here to vent; I’m sick of being told that I’m non-confrontational and I avoid confrontation, I don’t. I avoid confrontation with you because you need to be correct so I’d rather not waste time by arguing with you and instead just find a way to solve the problem in which you’re correct and the problem is solved. And it’s objectively wrong to say about me that I avoid confrontation because I do have regular confrontation with specific people who do end it.
But if you think conflict builds character you’re not going to get any of that character building with me ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ sorry nobody owes it you which means no one owes you a confrontation which means I’m not avoiding confrontation.
Ugh. I know that personality you’re talking about. Everything with them is a fight, and they expect the same in return and are pissed when you don’t play along.
“I’m not avoiding confrontation. I’m simply not willing to be your non-consensual sparring partner. You thrive on drama where for me its draining. You’re trying to provoke me into active conflict as a means to stave off your starvation. Instead, I’m disengaging with you so I don’t die of exhaustion.”
Because you are problem solving, and problem solving sometimes requires sidestepping confrontation altogether. Those who want confrontation for the sake of confrontation are debate winners and not problem solvers, two very different kinds of people.
