Not sure if this goes here, but you ever wake up and wonder if your the bad guy in your life? even if you have done like nothing wrong.
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I don’t know if this counts, but I’ve reflected more on my past recently and realized that sometimes I was kind of a turd. Never egregiously so (I hope) but I was often regarded as the quiet nice kid and I think that led to me believing that and probably overlooking some of my less favorable moments or behaviors that people didn’t see as often. I don’t hate myself now or think I’m the villain or anything like that, it’s just been an interesting slow process of reflection as I’ve gotten older. It’s good to be honest with ourselves and realize everyone has their bad moments. We’re not only who we are on our worst day, but also our best, and all those in between
We all play in the villain in someone’s story…
I feel very bad for whoever considers me a villain in their story.
Like not to belittle them or their struggles, but uh… gestures to self just look at me…
O’Brien. You are an excellent officer, husband and father. A true credit to the Federation.
I had a man point at me and angrily go “that’s her!” to his companion while passing me.
I work at a bakery and give this motherfucker a free roll and a decaf every day because he’s already on the street when I get there at 4 and he needs to eat. We didn’t have decaf that morning, so I just gave him a roll, because I don’t know why he drinks decaf and I’m not trying to give him a heart attack. He thought it was aggressive of me.
I constantly feel as though I’m a bad person. It’s my Catholic upbringing haunting me, mixed with my anxiety. I try to remind myself that I’m not awful as I think I am.
It’s gotten better for me as I age. Just learn to accept yourself, flaws and all. Try to talk to yourself the way you would talk to a friend having the same feelings.
I did nearly daily untill I got my meds in line.
Bipolar is no joke.
Emotional Abuse will get you thinking all sorts of things about yourself, even when there isn’t anything to it.
Sounds like there’s something you feel guilty about
It’s a thought process worth exploring, and one necessary for self-actualisation and prosocial living. It can’t be examined in an ideological vacuum though: what are your values and how and when have you gone against them? What’s the intensity and periodicity? Are you truly that far away from righteousness (and panicking a little bit in this case is warranted) or are you an overall “decent” person that needs to uhh round out their corners?
Right and wrong are not absolutes. The world is not black and white. People of good conscience are always asking themselves if they did right and how could they have been better. Life is not a purity test. The “good people” aren’t without error, mistakes and regrets, sin. They just try overall to do more good for others and our systems than for themselves.
If you never ask yourself if you are a good person, you most likely aren’t.
I always tell people that about parenting. Generally, if you’re worried about not being a good enough parent, you probably are a good parent.
Counterpoint, if you question yourself whether your actions make you a “good person” you’re self aware enough to worry about being a" bad person"
if you were a “bad person,” you probably wouldn’t give a shit in the first place…
That’s not a counterpoint. It’s THE point.
Yes and the answer was yes, and still is on a bad day.
When I discovered that I am autistic, and probably have ADHD, I realised that I really had been the weird bad guy all my life.
I discovered it when I was an adult. But in my case it was the opposite, it was a “oh… so I wasn’t the bad guy, I was just being weird to them and they were being dicks about it”.
Oh I’ve done a lot wrong
No. Generally I don’t do things that I feel are wrong or unethical, and I know that there are plenty of people doing bad things in society right now and that I’m not one of them.
If you’ve never asked yourself this question you’re doing it wrong
An unexamined life isn’t worth living. ~ So-Crates
Yes. I’m a bad guy for YouTube because I block their ads and I’ll keep being the bad guy.
Absolutely.
I think this moment happens for everyone, because we don’t always realize how our behaviors affect other people negatively, but it’s a sign of growth and maturity when you hit the point where that level of empathy kicks in.
