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    “When I can’t immediately tell a child’s gender, all I can think about is their genitals” - inner thoughts coming outside

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    Bourne became one of California’s most vocal anti-trans activists in the years since her eldest child came out first as trans and later as nonbinary.

    Fuck, I feel for that kid… Having a parent with mental illness is one thing and not easy, but can you imagine having to deal with this shit where your parent doesn’t only attack you but also anyone like you, only because of how you are?

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    Hope she has a daughter who grows the biggest dick you’ve ever seen. Like Shrek sunbathing.

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    So its like that train video, where the old white lady was not comfortable with a black man existing in the next set of seats.

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    This seems like it should have turned into “Anti-LGBTQ+ activist gets escorted out of board meeting and sent to prison for indecent exposure - LGBTQ Nation”

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    In this episode of “are the straights okay”, we get yet another troubling crumb of information: No. I allege some of them are very much not okay. Some of them aren’t thinking. Not doing the think before they do whatever they do.

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      Children don’t know that being naked with other people is wrong until we teach them self-loathing. If we just stopped, being naked would be normal and natural and there would be nothing sexual or perverse about it. It’s all adult projection of our fear and self-loathing.

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        IMHO there are too many fundamental things that should be changed in most western societies to allow a non traumatic passage into puberty of comunal showers, average maturity of involved individuals do not help, I see much easier to provide individual booth showers until they are successfully formed as adults…

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      They were the norm when I was a kid, though that was a long long time ago. I didn’t realise they’d have changed. Does everyone have like a separate shower stall now? Because if so, that makes this even more unhinged.

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        I might just not have had a real “gym” class, but we just didnt shower after. I was sweaty the rest of the day til I got home.

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    Did I read that right?

    “Her eldest child came out as trans then non-binary”, so does she hate her own child?

    She became vocal AFTER her own child came out? What a monster!

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    She does have a point that it’s weird we make teens change clothes, get naked, and shower as a group.

    Like, it would be less weird if they did it as children. But waiting until some kids start going thru puberty and then making everyone strip together while an inevitably creepy gym teacher watches with too much interest…

    The whole thing is fucking weird.

    Like, why can’t shower stalls include a changing stall?

    Everyone’s happy, and nobody’s looking or being looked at

    Seems like a ridiculously easy problem to solve.

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        Some of the high school showers I used were vertical pipes with shower heads pointing horizontally kind of spiraled up to the top. That way like 6 guys could share a shower area that would only be big enough for one guy. At my school we had normal (I guess) open showers with a showerhead and valve handle every 4 feet or so. With those verticle pipe ones just about the whole team could shower at once in the amount of space we used to shower 6 guys in our locker room. Very efficient?

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              Schools really don’t do gym anymore. I think the last time my kids had it was once a week, and I just didn’t see a point. It probably helps that my youngest is an athlete but what good does anyone get from once a week of screwing around?

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                We had different experiences, as did our kids. In the 70s/80s, we’d jog a mile everyday to start gym class. I was the wimpy kid, always picked second or third to last for a team. Sometimes last. :(

                When I took my kids on a hike down to the creek summer before last, “A whole MILE!”

                “Are you telling me a 52-yo man with emphysema can out walk you?!”

                Best part? They were so much more fit, had no complaints walking to the creek by the end of that summer. Weird part? They didn’t even notice.

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                  I have to say it’s been long enough for me that “a whole mile” seems unusual again. This summer was “let’s walk to the diner for breakfast. If we take the new bike trail it’s only a bit over a mile”.

                  I grew up in a rural area where we’d be out all day, and a mile wasn’t even worth measuring. Then is used to live in Boston, where walking and trains were more convenient than cars most of the time, so a mile wasn’t even just a short walk to whatever. But now in the suburbs I’ve fallen into the car trap, and it’s only since COVID that I started rediscovering how walkable my town is

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        1980s 7th and 8th-grade showers were basically prison showers for us. Was terrified to have to get naked, but glad it happened.

        Despite being a scrawny little fuck (still am), I learned I was packing heat vs. the popular preppies. Nothing to write home about, but I’ve never been insecure about my penis size.

        Also got me over my fear of being seen naked. Now I don’t give a fuck. (Part of the IDGAF is middle age.)

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      Private stalls for changing and showering should be mandatory and any student should have the eight to use them for any reason

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        No, every student should use them. If they’re only optional, you still have the bullies together in a gang to pick on everyone else. You’re singling out people who choose privacy. You’re putting peer pressure on everyone who doesn’t conform.

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    ? . . . okay, so had she continued she’d have been naked (presumably) and . . . ? what.

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    Group showering is an institutional practice, providing for the health of the worker, with little consideration to his/her own desires or comfort. Jails/mines/factories have historically required showering to make sure they could keep working.

    Schools are modeled after these institutions. The powerful people of this country see people as economic assets, and nothing else.